Women always complain about men
Every now and then, I hear people complaining about male behavior. There are some lengthy articles about the improper behavior that men tend to exhibit. Starting from their arrogant behavior, their rudeness to their violation of women rights!
People, especially women are all there complaining about the men, their behavior and their rudeness. There was a lady shouting out to a disrespecting man that this is how your mother raised you. The very sentence stuck in my head and I started to wonder.
Is there a fault in the way Saudi mothers are raising their sons?
Wonder upon that is there really a fault in the way Saudi mothers are raising their sons? Are the mothers at a fault? And then I heard to this very beautiful saying that the problem with us is that we love our boys are raise our daughters.
Yes, we tend not to raise sons. All rules apply for daughters and things go for granted for sons!
Nevertheless, I want to assure you that not all Saudi men are same and not all Saudi mothers are at fault. This article is very much relevant to our culture and my target audience is those women who have newly entered the motherhood! Let’s accept our mistakes and just not repeat them!
1-The servant rule applied to the daughter
Let’s just admit it that our boys are not into house chores as our mothers never allowed them to do so. Doing small house chores had always been the responsibility of the girl. A daughter shall take care of the house chores and the son shall not!
Seriously tell me who takes care/ helps in of house chores when maid has an off? We don’t need to give such treatment to our sons; they never get used to work, can’t live independently and would expect their wives to do the same as their sisters used to do!
2-The son has been blessed with all attention
when you fulfill all the needs of your son and pull hands when your daughter asks for the same, you are raising a son who would become a bad husband. He would always deny the rights of his wife.
When he will see his sister forgoing pleasure time, he would definitely want his wife to sacrifice for him. There are men who don’t allow their wives to undertake a career as they cannot look after themselves!
3-Making excuses for son misbehavior
I know some mothers who would defend their sons in front of father or family, even they know deep inside that their son was wrong. This helps the son to grow up being misbehaving and not undertaking any responsibility. On the other hand, the daughters to such parents always live in shadows.
4-The teaching that the Man is strong
Be a man, stay strong man, man up: these are common phrases that we hear since our childhood. What are we teaching: that man is stronger than females and females are weak?
I am sorry to say but such upraising techniques are causing social problems and we need to focus on changing them!