Men and women are Equal in Islam: Allah has created man and woman equally and has said in the Quran that both genders are equal and must be treated equally as they both have the same rights. Sadly, in Pakistan and India when a girl is born the reaction of some parents is not the same as it is when a boy is born.
Many people show disappointment when a girl is born and happiness when a boy is born. They are content with having a boy and torn apart or even angry at times when a girl is born. Our religion strictly prohibits this type of behavior because this is similar to the one practiced by people before Islam.
One of the reasons people have started behaving this way is that they have lived with Hindus for thousands of years. We have already written an article on why do some Indians bury their daughters alive?
The daughter is your one-way ticket to Jannah: Before Islam, many people even buried their daughters alive. They used to bury their daughters in the Jahiliyyah Cemetry in Makkah which is still present today. After the revelation of Islam, our Prophet (PBUH) showed the people the right way and even gave the females more importance over males.
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If anyone has a female child and does not bury her alive, or slight her, or prefer his children (i.e. the male ones) to her, Allah will bring him into Paradise. Uthman did not mention “male children”. Sunan Abi Dawud 5146
The upbringing of Boys and Girls: Some people differentiate in the upbringing of boys and girls. They always choose better for the boys and less for the girls. They also leave girls out of many things and let the boys enjoy their lives. This mindset is totally wrong, and our religion contradicts with this thinking.
From the Holy Prophet’s (PBUH) saying it is evident that the parents who treat their daughters well will be rewarded by Allah when a daughter is born, the parents should be happy more than ever because Allah has given them a chance to gain His will and achieve rewards from Him. On another occasion, the Holy Prophet (PBUH) said:
The Reward for upbringing the daughters: Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri narrated that the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever has three daughters, or three sisters, or two daughters, or two sisters and he keeps good company with them and fears Allah regarding them, then Paradise is for him. Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1916
Girls are still an unwanted commodity: This also shows that girls are a huge blessing for the parents, but have they been treated well? Growing up in a house where you are unwanted must feel terrible and many girls have lived with it in the past and are even now.
The human and women rights activists made life better for women than before but still, they face a lot of problems especially in Pakistan and India. The girls still, face these problems mostly in small rural areas where there is a lack of education.
Parents need to change their minds: In the past women faced these problems mostly because men wanted to remain dominant and having a daughter made them feel otherwise. Today, women have made a mark on this world, they have stepped on the moon, have won seats in the parliament, have become head of states, climbed mountains and have done extraordinary things alongside men.
Parents need to understand the importance of daughters because no son can love them as a daughter does. The areas with lack of education must be facilitated and this act of injustice must be stopped!