Bringing up children in any century has been a difficult and challenging task for the parents through the ages. Parents always want to give their children the right advice and are careful as to what they should advise them.
Young age is the age of learning, exploration and to know the pros and cons of life, both worldly and religiously. The parents want their children to learn and understand from the past experiences they’ve been through, and to let the children live a better life. Hazrat Luqman was not a prophet but he was a wise man who was gifted with wisdom by Allah.
Hazrat Luqman had a noble character which he himself said that he maintained by “Lowering my gaze, watching my tongue, eating what is lawful, keeping my chastity, undertaking my promises, fulfilling my commitments, being hospitable to guests, respecting my neighbors, and discarding what does not concern me. All these made me the one you are looking at.”
Hazrat Luqman gave 10 golden advises to his son. Allah liked it so much that he made it part of the Holy Quran and we are talking about it after thousands of years. This advice in the Holy Qur’an is suitable for all periods of time.
1- “O my son! Join not in worship others with God. Verily! Joining others in worship with God is a great wrong indeed.” (Quran 31:13): Hazrat Luqman, first of all, emphasized on the basis of our religion, and that is to have faith in One God and do not worship anyone other than God. He says that this would be the biggest sin in the eyes of God. That the person would have to face the wrath of God and punishment in this life and the hereafter.
2-“And we have enjoined on man to be dutiful and good to his parents…” (Quran 31:14): This advice holds great importance to the Holy Prophet (PBUH) was once asked about the many good deeds that are loved by God.
His reply was that you should pray on time and after that, you should be good and dutiful to your parents. Also, respecting parents has been mentioned alongside worshipping God alone in the Qur’an. This shows us the importance of this verse.
3-“O, my son! If it be (anything) equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and though it be in a rock, or in the heavens or in the earth, Allah will bring it forth…” (Quran 31:16): Hazrat Luqman further advises his son to keep faith in God and His matters. He says that God is all knowing and all seeing and he knows every little thing that goes on in this world. He advises his son not to question God’s might in any way and to always keep faith in Him.
4- “O my son! Offer prayer perfectly…” (Quran 31:17): Praying in the right way and at the right time changes the character of a person in a positive way. By praying a person does not forget God and why he sent us into this world. Prayer is a way to connect with God who has blessed us with infinite blessings.
5-“…enjoin on people all that is good and forbid them from all that is evil…” (Quran 31:17): Being a Muslim it is our duty to bring good into our society. We should do good deeds and if someone is not doing right the right thing then the Prophet (PBUH) has said that we should try to stop them according to our ability. (By hand, by tongue or by feeling it is wrong).
6-“…and bear with patience whatever befalls you…” (Quran 31:17): Luqman gave a wise advice to his son to pray perfectly. He said to enjoy good and forbid evil and then he recommended to deal with people with patience. This is our foremost duty to pray perfectly.
7-“And turn not your face away from men with pride…” (Quran 31:18): We should never turn away from anybody with pride or arrogance. We should try not to think ourselves better than anybody else humility leads us to Paradise whereas arrogance and pride lead us to Hell.
8-“…nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah likes not any arrogant boaster.” (Quran 31:18): Luqman wanted to emphasize the importance of humility. All people are equal. Allah has not created anybody with any superiority. The only thing that sets all the people apart is their piety.
9-“And be moderate (or show no insolence) in your walking…” (Quran 31:19): Luqman advised his son that humility and patients should be in a person’s nature. Those who believe in Allah should possess humility, patience. Gentleness and mercy in their behavior. We should not walk on this earth with insolence.
10-“…and lower your voice. Verily, the harshest of all voices is the braying of the asses.” (Quran 31:19): This was the final advice given by Luqman to his son. We should always avoid raising our voices loud. He said being loud and harsh makes one voice like the braying of donkeys